by Carla | Feb 9, 2023 | Getting Through Difficult Experiences, Interactions & Communication
WHEN SOMEONE ELSE IS WOUND-UP OR UPSET about something – they might just need for us to bite our tongue, stop offering advice or solutions or even reasons why something is the way it is, and instead: ask them to share more, then say little and listen a lot....
by Carla | Jan 25, 2023 | Comparison to Others, Food for Thought, Interactions & Communication
THAT PERSON WHO MUST TELL US ALL ABOUT A TOPIC THAT WE ALSO KNOW ABOUT, or how they excel at an activity or task that we also do – how fast or effective they are – it’s possible our first reaction might be that it is a reflection on us. We might take it to mean they...
by Carla | Jan 15, 2023 | Food for Thought, Interactions & Communication
OVER THE YEARS I’VE SPENT SO MUCH TIME WINCING AS I’VE THOUGHT BACK TO EXPERIENCES – particularly conversations and interactions – contemplating just how much better or differently I would handle them ‘now.’ ‘Now’ is really any point after it happened...
by Carla | Jan 8, 2023 | Decision-making, Interactions & Communication
A REMINDER TO NOT BLINDLY FOLLOW WHAT OTHERS SAY. CHECK IN WITH WHAT FEELS RIGHT. If someone tells you, advises you, encourages you to do something … ~ on your own life path, ~ with your future plans, ~ such as to participate (or not) in an event or activity, or ~...
by Carla | Dec 28, 2022 | Interactions & Communication
SOMETIMES WE CAN GET UPSET THAT SOMEONE ELSE ‘DIDN’T EVEN ASK ME ABOUT [X situation]’ or ‘they never mentioned [X issue that is so important in my life right now]’ – perhaps even allowing it to be a signal that we’re ready to give up on the friendship or relationship....
by Carla | Dec 28, 2022 | Interactions & Communication, Self-Worth & Self-Esteem
NOT EVERYONE IS BLAMING YOU when they are bringing up a problem. Often we can jump to that expectation and get defensive. Maybe we’ve experienced or observed that before, and it’s become our automatic reaction. But someone discovering a problem is more likely just...
